Advice on this?
Why is receiving so darn hard?
Why is receiving so darn hard!? I didn’t know this about myself or maybe I did. The old belief of “You can do this yourself, you don’t need anyone’s help” is ingrained in me and I’ve had to confront it. (maybe you can relate?)
Family and friends have swooped in with cards, packages, meals, coffee, and fun gifts for our children to support and encourage us during this challenge. I’ve been amazed and overwhelmed by their love, support, and generosity. I’ve also felt a little uncomfortable by it all. And this uncomfortable feeling sends me into a spiral…shame running the show. GRR.
I don’t like that feeling yet I have better tools now to cope. (writing!) I was able to find the thought that was creating this feeling: I don’t need anyone’s help. This thought only creates more isolation, not connection.
I’m sharing this with you because connection matters—I want to get better at it—and this belief that we don’t need anyone or that something is wrong with us only keeps us feeling more isolated.
We need each other and I’m so glad you are here in this community. This is a big reason why I’ve set up the monthly (I would love to make more frequent) writing meet-ups. I hope you can join us.
So tell me…have you mastered the art of receiving? Any advice?
**Come join us Tomorrow 5/18 from 11-11:30 AM EST. to write or just stop in to say hi! I would love to connect with you. Click HERE to join: Julie Hughes is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting: Run to Write Community.
Poem of the Day:
RISING A doctor visit with my husband We’ve been here before Will they ever end Or is there more in store The clinic is packed So many people enduring the fight. I want to hug or squeeze each hand with all my might. A cure is what we are after To feel like himself again Hard for me to imagine with the poison dripping in Every cell in his body is taking it on And we pray— It’s doing the job. The Doc says this will do it Just one more round. This will be a tough month Yet you’ve made it this far. Tears come Cancer changes everything Nothing will be the same Yet what really ever stays the same? We’ll grow through this season of fire and pain— The rising will come.
This is beautiful and so heartfelt😘 when you love someone you naturally just want to ‘fix’ everything and make it better…when that just isn’t possible you feel helpless. It’s definitely hard to accept help from others but just know that so many people love you and want to be there for you🥰 hang in there Julie…you have been amazing through all of this. Love you💕🙏🏼
<3 Lots of love to your family. Receiving is hard. Maybe partly because in those moments, admitting we need that love and support also cracks us open to the feelings of all that is happening.